Literal Laying of the Foundation

Sex. Who doesnt like it? Love it? And we all know we brag about our special talents behind closed doors that makes our partners come back for more.. and more... and just a little bit more for the road.. But we had to learn it somewhere.. And because sex, past relationships, and all things related have been a constant discussion in my many worlds, I feel it is appropriate to acknowledge the men that have made me the skilled booty buddy I am today.

The Foundation

I lost my virginity at 13. It was one of the most painful things I have ever done in my life. All I heard about sex from my parents was how I should wait til I was married to do it... All the music was telling me that it was something, once I had it, that I couldnt live with out... And apparently my hormones had a little inclination to go a little further than the staircase make out sessions I prided myself on in middle school. With all of that, I wanted to know what the big deal was. My "This Is It?" first experience removed all curiousity and I didnt start having sex again until I got to Howard.

My first boyfriend at Howard was a great lay. But seeing that I didnt know anything about sex, anything was great I guess. Sophomore year all that changed. My second year of college, 6 years after losing my virginity, I learned how to have sex.

I met a young man from Jersey, ironically, at my firsts apartment. He was handsome, funny, texted me all the time so I felt special.. You know all the gay and cliche shit someone could say about someone. At the time, I was in a long distance relationship and my need for physical contact was growing and I needed to fill that void. Jersey helped me with that in more ways than one.

He taught me everything a woman needed to know if she was even considering having sex. Had to take the D, how to perfect my arch, how ride effectively, what worked for my body the best... Everything you could learn in Sex 101... I have to admit that if it wasnt for him, I would have continued in the misconstrued thought that my sex was good when it probably below average.

Our sexual relationship lasted roughly a year and half. Another lesson I learned from him: A man appreciates pussy that he can hit up whenever, but after a while it gets boring. A man needs to pursue in some capacity, even if it is the same person. Its make the relationship, more fun and slightly more than sex. I didn't realize my flaw until after we stopped talking. I was always so eager to have sex that there were times I would blow his phone up and only after I looked back that I realized that that type of thirstiness is a turnoff for a man and a woman. But hindsight is always 20/20. Now I know better.

So to that young man, wherever he is, I thank you for laying down the foundation. Literally.